I had an experience last weekend that reminded me of how hard it is as a mom to get out and spend money and time on ourselves.
It was Sunday morning and my husband said “hey, why don’t you go to a yoga class today?” I instantly said “yes! that would be awesome!”
BUT when it came time to actually get myself out the door (and thereby commit to going) I felt guilty. Guilty that he would have to spend part of HIS ‘me time’ (watching football games) caring for our son, guilty that I was about to spend all this time just to myself and not be productive (there is the never ending pile of laundry/food prep/etc that could always use some attention), and guilty that I was spending money on myself when that money could go to something fun for our family to enjoy together.
I started making excuses for why I couldn’t go. But then I remembered. When I take care of myself, I feel great. And when I feel great I am a much nicer mom and wife to be around. So, I pushed myself out the door. I gave my son a big kiss and hug, gave my husband a big kiss and hug, and said “I’ll see you in a few hours”. And even though it was HARD to leave, I did it.
After a few hours, I returned home feeling rejuvenated and ready to be a mom and wife again. I was patient with my son again as he asked me to pick him up (for possibly the 500th time that day ) and I enjoyed the little moments of the evening (because I was more present after taking a yoga class and slowed my monkey mind down).
I felt inspired to share this with you because I totally understand how hard it is to take care of yourself because I go through it too! Please take time for yourself doing something you love; because you deserve it.
There are times (on the mat and off) when we come across obstacles. What is your usual reaction? Push harder? Back off and avoid it? A mix of both?
My usual reaction is to push harder. I first learned this about myself on my yoga mat. I’d push harder in spite of my body asking for something more moderate. I eventually paid for this with a very tired body and some minor injuries (thank goodness they were minor and I could continue my normal everyday life).
Off the mat, I experience obstacles daily with my son. He tests all the boundaries; goes for the things he shouldn’t touch, throws a temper tantrum when he can’t get his way, and refuses to nap. I have a choice with each and every instance; I can go hard OR I can go with the flow. I can take a deep breath, look into his eyes, and find a way around the obstacle.
Next time you’re faced with an obstacle either on your mat or off, imagine a flowing and steady river in your mind. Take a deep breath and choose your reaction. Notice how it feels in your body to go with the flow; luxuriate in that feeling!
I shared this video on my facebook page earlier in the week and just had to share it with you guys! I keep watching it. This realization is one of the things that gave me the courage to make the leap out of the corporate world. If your soul is calling you to something else, get quiet and just hear it out. You don’t have to make any radical changes today (and I would personally encourage you not to make any rash decisions), BUT don’t discount that longing in your soul. Life is NOT about just making it through the week, paying bills, and living for the weekends.